Whose voice?

I love my husband dearly and he is a very Godly man.  Period.  I am also married for forever.  That is the covenant I made with him before God.  My job is to remember my role in our marriage.  And my role is not the role of the Holy Spirit's little helper.  The still small voice doesn't manifest in my little nagging voice.  What am I supposed to be doing?  Submitting.  Loving.  Respecting.  Serving.  Helping.  I try to fit nagging or "reminding" or hinting under one of those categories.  It just doesn't fit anywhere.