Monday, November 9, 2015

Has the Drama Found You?

Over the past week or two, drama has found me.  It's definitely first world drama (meaning not life or death). 

Perhaps you remember that one of the biggest reasons I've always distanced myself (far) from social media is to stay away from the drama.  "Drama" is really just a current word for strife and busy-bodying, among other things that the Bible calls sin. 

We try to practice Romans 12:18 to the best of our ability, as well:

"If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men."
In any case, through the girls' dog treat business and some other things, drama found us, even though we were trying our best to live at peace with those around us.  This drama has helped me to think - what do I do when drama finds me?  That's when people are paying attention, when life isn't going smoothly, when you've been wronged or when you've been accused, etc. 

The thing about this drama was that it filtered into our home and affected the Blossoms directly.  We took the opportunity to talk about this at the dinner table.  It made for some really neat conversations and times of learning.  I'm sincerely thankful for opportunities to talk about real life ways that we walk out our Christianity.  It wasn't a gossip session.  It wasn't a bash session.  It wasn't a gripe session. 

"What would you do?" 

"How would you feel?" 

"How do you think we should handle this?" 

"What do you think Jesus feels about this?" 

This is where the rubber meets the road. 

We still tried to limit the drama.  After all, Proverbs 20:3 says,
"Keeping away from strife is an honor for a man, but any fool will quarrel."

It's easy to get sucked in.  We stopped the conversations that were controlled by the drama topic.  We love our peaceful home, so when/if it ceased to be a learning family discussion, Mommy just said, "That's enough."  We won't dwell on garbage!!!  Believe me, I was very aware that our children were watching how Mommy and Daddy handled this thing.  We also resisted the temptations to get involved further than we felt was right, wise or necessary.  We could've hit reply all, just like everyone else in the crazy email string. 

But we didn't. 

I really felt like it was an exercise in wisdom. 

We didn't do the easy thing, the fun thing, the feel-good thing, we just waited.  It was the wise thing.

If you've read the book of Proverbs, you know that wisdom is a really big deal and it's also surprisingly practical and quiet.  If I could contrast, I'd say that drama likes the flashy thing and wisdom IS often the quiet, common sense thing.

There wasn't a formulaic answer to quell the drama.  We just tried our best to walk through it in the Godliest way we could, teaching our children all along the way. 

I urge you, if the drama finds you, walk Godly, use wisdom and teach your kids through it all.

PS - Today we received a refund check for what was basically fraudulent use of our funds.  The Rugged Mountain Man and I thanked the Lord.  When the Blossoms get home from Grammie & Pappy's house, we can't wait to show them the outcome of all of it.  And we didn't even have to get crazy involved in the drama.